This year, I was honored to become a columnist for The Garrison Institute, whose mission is to demonstrate the importance of contemplative practices in our world today. My "beat" is technology and intimacy, exploring the nexus of mindfulness and the emotions of everyday life. My most recent column, "Anxious to Connect," examined the knot of complicated emotions many of us tend to feel when using social media, the most central of which (at least for me) is anxiety.
As I write more and more columns, I am realizing that the voice and tone of my column is serving as a kind of prototype for the book idea I am currently working on: a feminist revision of the idea of etiquette. Historically, etiquette books have been written for women by other women, offering a set of standards for "good behavior" that are necessarily structured by class and privilege (sensitivity about race, sexuality, ability, and so on was always out of the question). In fact, the etymology of the word etiquette comes from the French' "list of ceremonial observances of a court." Presumably, etiquette was invented as a genre for lower classes to imitate the ceremonial grace of the court: possessing etiquette shows you possess a certain privilege—meaning that the very idea is hegemonic and hierarchical. But what if etiquette were hospitable to notions of social equality and self-empowerment, systemic oppression and self-worth? That's what I hope to ask. If you have questions or want to talk about the utopian possibility of feminist etiquette, then hit me up, as they say, at firstname.lastname@example.org. :D
I was so grateful to be featured as one of four contributors writing personal narratives for MarieClaire.com's International Women's Day campaign, #WhatIWishISaid. The aim of the series was to showcase that, even in 2017, sexism still exists—in small, medium and large ways. It's systemically engrained in our culture and cultures across the globe. Just because we now live in a world where women can be CEOs or presidential candidates does not mean that we live in a world of gender equality, and we need to continue to resist, cultivate solidarity and share our stories in order to do so.
My story tells readers about an instance of "large-scale" sexism that I experienced, but one that appeared smaller in scale to me at the time because of my own cultural conditioning. Trigger Warning: There are issues related to consent abuse and sexual assault. But I believe it is a nuanced account of an experience too many women have experienced. Check it out here!
I was honored to be interviewed by Ronan Farrow for his TODAY SHOW series Campus Undercovered—on an episode covering "academic doping," AKA Adderall misuse, abuse and over-use by college students. The interview was catalyzed by my article "Ivy League Addiction" in the September 2016 issue of Cosmopolitan. I look forward to doing more speaking on campuses and other public venues to educate more students, parents, administrators and others on the dangerous ramifications of this nation-wide epidemic.
My piece "Ivy League Addiction" has hit the newsstands in the September 2016 issue of Cosmopolitan mag. The story is an intimate essay about my experience with the prescription stimulant Adderall at Harvard, and is also a self-reflective piece of cultural criticism about our drive toward perfectionism as a way of feeling like we're "enough." It's finally online, so please share and check it out! <3
After today, I will stop commenting on the fact that I am terrible at updating my website. But hello, I am terrible at updating my website.
A lot has happened since October. I have been juggling an array of consulting and editing projects, which has, of course, put my creative work a little bit more on the back burner. "Namaste" as they say. I have been doing branding and strategy work for a soon-to-be launched holistic skincare line and have since threw out all my beauty products with parabens, sulfates ETC. The next step AFTER quitting cigarettes, I guess? I have been editing manuscripts for a diverse array of authors, and have been working on a book proposal of my own. More TK on that. I am also finishing up final edits for my feature on my Adderall addiction and misuse of Adderall more generally among millennials. A bit scared for that to be revealed to the world—but hey, vulnerability is strength. Or something.
Currently, I am very excited about my current project, which is now becoming more of my focus in terms of the editing work I do in addition to my own writing. I have taken on the part-time project as Managing Editor of trans.cafe, a newly launched content hub about issues related to transgender identity, lifestyle and more. On the corporate side, trans.cafe will also be providing companies with e-learning tools to provide sensitivity training and best practices for HR departments to cultivate a trans-friendly work environment. I am thrilled to be a part of the team and to give more of my attention to trans advocacy work.
I wanted to let you all know that I'm leading a healing workshop called "How To Speak Your Sexual Truth" at the beautiful urban sanctuary Awakening NY on NOVEMBER 6 at 7:30 PM. The price is $40
Here are the details all below, and the event description:
November 6, 2013
Awakening NY at 605 Manhattan Avenue in Greenpoint (off the Nassau G or Bedford L)
Even the most politically aware and sexually empowered people have said “yes” when they meant “no.” I know I have been there. We are all human, and setting boundaries for ourselves and our bodies is scary – in the context of sex, friendship, work and beyond. This workshop will ask the question, “How do we come home – how do we heal – when we dishonor what we want?”
We will begin with a breath-work and chakra cleansing ritual and then move into group discussions, guided meditations, writing exercises and visualizations. The only "goal" is to create a space of permission and support. Together, we can practice honoring ourselves and our bodies. We can speak our truth, sexually and beyond.
I am honored that I have been selected, along with my dear friends Julian Gewirtz and Michael Weinstein, to participate in the 2015 Amherst Poetry Festival. This year marks the 50th anniversary of Elizabeth Bishop's Questions of Travel, an out-of-this-world collection of poems that poignantly address enormous questions about identity, intimacy, place and what it means to feel estranged. We will be reading a selection of Bishop's work, along with our own poems and reflections to celebrate her work, and to probe difficult questions about personal and cultural identity, especially as they relate to gender and sexuality. Yay!
My (first) workshop "What Is Self-Love Anyway?" was a great "success." By which I mean: I was less nervous than expected, the group had awesome energy, and people got a lot out of it. The workshop consisted of many writing exercises, guided meditations and intimate discussions with the group participants, all of whom were brave and graceful in their willingness to share. For me, the most interesting thing about teaching this workshop was the aftermath: I found myself much less inclined to beat up on myself the days following. In short, I felt compelled to practice what I was preaching: self-love. I plan to host more workshops like this soon. Stay tuned! :)
Last summer, I was honored to connect with Rachel Kauder-Nalebuff and Alexandra Brodsky, editors of groundbreaking anthology The Feminist Utopia Project, published by The Feminist Press. The collection invited its contributors to consider what it might be like to exist in a truly feminist world, and will ask the same of its readers. I am lucky to have a short essay and several poems published in the collection, along with other amazing feminist voices like Janet Mock, Sheila Heti and Mia McKenzie.
Even more exciting is that the book is available for pre-order now! Click here to do so.
At mindbodygreen's revitalize event, I was blessed to meet the amazing Jennifer Grace, Hay House author and radio show host. After struggling on my book proposal for almost two years now, I was delighted to hear that Jennifer teaches a Book Proposal Accountability course, in which I've enrolled for the coming two months. There will be more updates along the way, but for now stay tuned!
I will be leading a workshop at Awakening NY, an urban sanctuary and healing center in Greenpoint/Williamsburg, Brooklyn. The title of the workshop will be "What Is Self-Love, Anyway?" and it will be taking place on Sunday, July 12, 2015 at 3 PM. More details to come!
I am terrible at updating my website, apparently. But here I am, back and ready to start anew!
I am honored to have had two poems published in the first print issue (Issue Five) of Nat. Brut magazine. I am particularly honored because of NB's greater social mission: to be the only magazine out there that is committed to being socially progressive, environmentally sustainable, and representative of a wide demographic range of artists, writers and other creators. #FEMINISM. Among other things, and other hashtags. Check it out!
I am thrilled to be working as an Associate Editor at mindbodygreen. I will be focusing on developing the relationship content on the site, and producing original content each week. Please reach out if you have ideas for pieces (about relationships or otherwise!), or would simply like to learn more about our team's work!
Do What You Love (or "DWYL") is what Miya Tokumitsu calls the "unofficial work mantra of our time." Like many recent college graduates (and well, everyone else), I was incredibly moved by Tokumitsu's article "In the Name of Love" in Jacobin mag, in which she critiques this "mantra" and exposes why it is unproductive and even problematic. I wrote a loose response to Tokumitsu's article, published in the form of a guest blog post for the Harvard Business Review. Check it out here!
It is National Poetry Month! I am delighted that three of my poems have been published online by The Boston Review, in celebration of NPM. My poems will be available on April 27th! But you should check out the website between now and then, as a new poem is published every day. Here's the link...
Sorry for the delay, all! It's been a crazy few weeks. I was delighted to see that my article "Why Is College Dating So Screwed Up?" was featured in a blurb in the April 2014 issue of Cosmopolitan: my piece apparently got 25,000 Facebook shares and more than 500 tweets in the first week online alone! As a result of the emails and tweets I have been getting, I encourage you all to reach out to me on Twitter: follow me @clieberwoman. This month's theme is SELF-EMPOWERMENT!
My article "Why Is College Dating So Screwed Up?" finally hit the stands in the March 2014 issue of Cosmopolitan. Click here to read the article online!
My sister Rebecca Lieberman and I just returned from a New Year’s meditation and yoga retreat at Menla Center for Health and Happiness. Our five-day trip was filled to the brim with enlightening lectures by experts Sharon Salzberg and Robert Thurman, vegan fare, tea and Iyengar yoga.
If you haven’t yet read Salzberg's recent books “Love Your Enemies” (co-authored with Robert Thurman) and “Real Happiness at Work,” you are missing out! Check them out here.
I’m thrilled to be working as a copywriter for the new raw food and juice company VCLEANSE started by Harvard alums Tian Mayimin and Chenling Zhang in Shanghai. VCLEANSE is the first natural foods and juice-cleanse company in mainland China. As a big proponent of all things wellness, I’m excited at the opportunity to help their brand grow by producing engaging promotional content about their nutritious-but-always-delicious products.
Just before Thanksgiving, I traveled to Cambridge, MA with photographer Andrew Hetherington for my first ever photo-shoot. For my upcoming feature article in Cosmopolitan (on the trendy and thorny subject of college dating), Andrew took photos of me around my old stomping grounds around Harvard. One of these will accompany the article…curious to see which one they chose when it comes out!
I wrote an article for Kitchensurfing about the best-ever portmanteau: BRUNCH. I do love brunch, but the genesis of my piece was driven by some skepticism: “Why is brunch such a big deal, anyway?” My tinge of cynicism was quickly dissolved by the many creative and thoughtful interviews I conducted with NYC’s best brunch-loving chefs from hot brunch spots around the city. I’m excited for the piece to debut in the spring of 2014.
I graduated from Harvard! I’m proud to be the recipient of the Le Baron Russell Briggs Honors Thesis Prize, the Academy of American Poets Prize and the Lloyd McKim Garrison Prize, awarded to me for my poems by Harvard’s English Department. I look forward to continue writing poetry alongside my other writing projects after graduation and beyond!